Man is a social being by nature and therefore tends to share and talk about his struggles,
his goals, his projects, and his problems. It is important to have the right person to share those
ideas with and to find objective and proactive solutions.
Today, many people are lacking the presence of extended family as a resource to go to
for advice or to share family struggles. Furthermore, it is not always healthy to involve friends in
our intimacy. Also, we all know that we can never be good trustees of ourselves.
Moreover, coaching can impact people in several different ways. Firstly, with time. One
of the big challenges nowadays is to manage time and goals. It is a challenge to balance “your
watch with your compass”. Often we know where we want to go but we do not know how. We
do not see the “how” because we do not put in the necessary time to discover it. When we stop
and think in order to organize our ideas, the “how” begins to be apparent and make sense. The
practice of stopping and thinking also has the potential of creating a more positive view of life.
When we are so immersed in our circumstances and we do not stop to think, it easy to see just
the complications in life and be blind to what is positive. We can change our attitude towards
those difficulties by breaking paradigms and opening new perspectives of the same situation. A
coach can help a client accomplish this.
The coach can also see the client’s situation with an objective eye. Not only that, but
coaching also provides the clients with tools for being more objective themselves. This is another
impact that coaching has on people. Clients often need to “get out of the forest to see the trees”
and it is great if you have a coach beside you to guide your vision. Someone that can help you to
regulate emotions and put objectivity into your vision is a great asset to have.
A coach also provides a plan or a map where the path to reaching goals is somewhat
traced. The coach reminds clients to keep the big picture in mind, and explains that the map with
the marked path to follow is not the whole territory… it’s just one part of a bigger picture. It’s a
matter of keeping the big picture in mind while trying to accomplish the goals set in that “map”.
Sometimes it is hard to follow goals but it is still worth it to have them. If we don’t follow them
completely at all times, there is still room for improvement because the traced map is not
everything. Franklin Covey says that when you have a plan or a map, you probably will be 90%
of the time out of track but you will always know where to go back to.
Coaching holds the client accountable. In order to break a bad habit or to develop a
new good one, you need 30 days of practice and al least 45 days of accountability. A coach is
helpful to making this happen.
Lastly, motivation and happiness are basic needs in every human being and everyone is
looking for them. But as Robert BiswasDiener said: “It’s not my mission to make you happy.
Instead, it is my job to help you with the issues you care about, and it is possible that happiness
will be a natural byproduct of any progress we make”.